Do you ever feel like you’re out of your depth, that you don’t measure up to your peers? Do you put others on a pedestal, believing they are somehow better than you, only to later realize that’s not true? I know that feeling all too well. But here’s the truth: You are more capable and worthy than you realize.

Even with all my experience and training, I’ve found myself looking for “gurus” to guide me. But over time, I made the conscious decision to stop placing people, whether friends, family, or mentors, on a pedestal. My late husband used to say I was too gullible. I would always reply, “No, I just like to see the best in people and give them the benefit of the doubt.” But in the years since his passing, his words have stayed with me as a form of protection.

I’ve come to realize that many of the people I once admired and trusted were not who I thought they were. Some took advantage of my vulnerability when I needed them the most. People I had loved and cared for deeply revealed that they never truly cared for me or my family. Some even caused additional trauma for my children and me during our hardest times. But through it all, I grew stronger, and I learned an important lesson: my worth is not determined by how others see me, but by how I see myself.

I refused to become another statistic. I had no role models within my family, so I looked elsewhere for inspiration. At 25, with two toddlers, I went back to school to complete high school and then earned a degree in Business IT. I was the first in my family to pursue higher education. Growing up, education wasn’t a priority, getting a job and earning money was. At 16, I left school without qualifications to work in an office. But that was when I realized I wanted more than what was expected of someone like me. And I made it happen.

I went on to become a teacher at Manchester College, and I loved it. But that’s when imposter syndrome first crept in. I worked alongside highly qualified professionals, and deep down, I still saw myself as that little girl who didn’t feel worthy of her achievements. Even now, after all these years, imposter syndrome sneaks in when I’m around other professionals, even though I’ve worked just as hard to be where I am. But I no longer let it hold me back.

I even emigrated to Canada so my children could have a better life, away from the toxicity I had known. And today, as I write this, I realize how much I’ve accomplished. I’m entering my third successful year in business, building something meaningful, helping people transform their lives, and still, imposter syndrome tries to creep in. But now, I push past it, because I know my worth.

And here’s what I want you to know: No one is better than you. You are unique. You are your own hero.

Learn to rely on yourself and follow your dreams. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, and don’t let negativity define your journey. If people are jealous of you, let them be, it only means they see something in you that they wish they had. That’s their battle, not yours.

And never put others on a pedestal.

I recently met with a so-called “guru” who had countless awards and an impressive website. I wanted to learn from her, to see what wisdom she could offer. But I left that meeting disappointed. For all her accolades, she lacked warmth, emotion, and connection. Her questions were clinical, and the conversation felt empty. I had expected inspiration, but instead, I found a lesson, not about her, but about myself.

I realized that the true value in my business isn’t about awards or recognition. It’s about what I offer my clients. I go above and beyond, not because I want praise, but because I genuinely care. Sometimes, I even give my clients all the tools they need in a free consultation, because for me, it’s not about the money. It’s about transformation. It’s about helping people step into their power, the same way I had to step into mine.

So if you’ve ever felt like you don’t belong, if imposter syndrome whispers in your ear, if you’ve placed others above yourself, know that you are more than enough. Your journey is yours, and no title, award, or external validation will ever define your worth.

You already have everything you need within you. Trust yourself. Follow your path. And never, ever doubt your power.

You can achieve your dreams. The only thing standing in your way is the belief that you can’t. And I promise you, you can.

Blessings

Kathy x